- living alongside one another.
- trying not to disturb him.
- trying to be unobtrusive.
- looking at him and wondering when it was okay to talk or if it would be at all that day.
- wondering what he was doing that was so so important that she could not interrupt.
- engaging in her own tasks to avoid getting in the way of his important tasks.
- doing all the things that the house needed, the two children needed, that he needed to have done but didn’t put on his lists.
- feeling less and telling herself that her want of more was actually about her own weaknesses.
Ruth Arnold lives in a suburb of Chicago with her teen son and older son (when he’s not away to college). Ruth lost her husband 12 years ago to an unforeseen sudden death. She suffered from complicated grief for many years due to many unresolved issues with her husband, but recovered in time with grief counseling. Ruth is living with metaststic breast cancer and serves as an ambassador for a primary medication she takes. Ruth hopes her writings about grief and living with cancer can benefit others.