Notes we wrote to my deaf father during the last three days of his life

Time for liquid meds – under tongue
We also have medicine for if you are in pain
We can make it yummy
Iced tea to make mouth taste better
Food? Smoothie?
Foot rub?
What hurts?
We will put stuff under tongue for comfort
I love you – trying to help you feel better
Warm enough?
What did you dream?
You said something about Sweden
Nurse said it’s nothing to worry about
The leukemia makes you bleed
Good morning. It’s Sunday. Rainy.
No – I don’t want to go anywhere. I want to be with you.
It’s for comfort
Let it go

Hillary Davis

Hillary Davis is a clinical psychologist in Portland, Oregon. She lives with her family and one very mellow dog.

2 comment on “Notes we wrote to my deaf father during the last three days of his life

  • Penny Helm
    July 1, 2021 | 4:08 pm

    This is so beautiful. Had to write so much for Dad. Comforting to look back on.

  • Lana McBride
    September 27, 2021 | 3:33 pm

    Those simple words of comfort will get you through your lifetime. My family and I did this for both of my parents. Wish I would have had the where with all to write down what we said. That was a great idea! However, I remember scenarios with doctors, and my dad’s humor up to the end. Thanks for this.
    Both have been gone – dad 23 years, mom 13 years. So good to know other families talk about dreams.

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